Signs your son is gay

He was always concerned about how he looked and followed fashion. After all, he had a crush on a girl in his class. Let your child come to terms with it first and then come out. It's not a failure on the parent's part.

According to my co-author, psychiatrist Jonathan Tobkes, "Gay children feel incredibly vulnerable when coming out to their parents, and it takes time to work up the courage to do this. It isn't your place to put a sexual label on your child.

Signs of pre-homosexuality Some signs of pre-homosexuality show up early in a child’s life as what might be called “cross-gender behavior.” Five markers, in particular, can determine whether a boy or girl is a likely candidate for gender identity disorder: An affinity to cross-dress.

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If your son likes sissy stuff or your daughter shuns feminine frocks, he or she is more likely to buck the heterosexual norm. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would have defensively said "No!

Posted December 30, Reviewed by Lybi Ma. I accidentally found that note in his room when I was cleaning. However, your child may fear your rejection and probably knows that he is disappointing you and not meeting your expectations.

If you want him to come out so that he will seem happier in his own skin, you will want to create a safe and supportive environment at home. As it turns out, our son didn't come out until he was 17, was on his own, and brought a boyfriend to visit.

Children usually come out to the safest person. Not sure that’s the case with your son? I had suspected at times that he was gay. He preferred gentler sports. But predicting sexual preference is still an inexact science.

When your child does come out, give him a hug and tell him you love him and that you're proud of him to divulge his true self. This doesn't mean that LGBT people can't fit stereotypes - it just means you shouldn't rely on them as your evidence for a family member's gender or sexuality.

I never questioned him about the heart I found on the sly. He only had girls to his thirteenth birthday party. How would I have brought it up? Don't try to force your child's identity out of her or him. They need space to work things out.

Were these stereotypical thoughts from a straight mother? Ask your child how she is feeling on a regular basis. You bet, but it was ingrained through the culture's binary system and ideas about how males were "supposed to" behave. I'm glad I muzzled myself.

Suppose I was wrong? If you think your brother is gay because he watches a "girly" TV show or his voice sounds a certain way, that's relying on stereotypes. It also takes trust. These parents berate themselves with the notion that they have failed in some way.